A Lesson in… Forgiveness

“When you forgive, you love. And when you love, God’s light shines upon you.” – Jon Krakauer, Author

You know, I actually wrote this story in detail on another blog of mine last year. So many of you have emailed me over the years to tell me how touched you were by my words and for the way I handled the situation. But it is finally time for me to leave the details of that tragic event in my past where it belongs and rely on word of mouth to warn people of the circumstances under which it happened. I hope you can understand why I just want to keep the wisdom I gained from it on MyBelovedSunset.

Here are some words from the final extract from that story;

“I pray that I never perceive my compassion as a weakness… Right now, I am the best version of myself I have ever been…because of the way God helped me deal with this situation. Watching someone very close to me nearing the end of their life has shown me that it really is too short… As human beings I know that the most awful situations can help us figure out who we really are and with this experience instilled within me, I find no reason to worry about what life brings anymore. Going back to Uni to do my exams was probably one of the hardest things I have had to do and, whether I pass or fail them, I’ve found strengths within myself that I never knew existed. Instead, I look forward to the day I can look to the memories of mine and his pretend friendship and see him as just someone I used to know, rather than the friend who almost killed me.”

It has been almost 3 years since that incident happened. And I can finally say that it does not affect me anymore. I feel so spiritually connected with the Universe. Yet I know that he will never be okay, and I truly feel sorry for him because of that. At some point in our lives, we have to forgive to move on. But that does not mean what they did was fine, it just means you are done with it. That chapter is finished. For when we are on our deathbed in our final moments on this Earth, it will not matter what other people have done to us. What will matter is how YOU have treated others and dealt with the situations Life has handed to you. So in the words of a hero of mine – Maya Angelou, ‘it is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.’